I love working and I love my family, but sometimes it is hard to have a happy medium. Luckily for myself and my family I am only working weekends right now which works out perfect for us and homeschooling. I’ve been reading a lot of posts lately about how stressful some of my friends lives are right now juggling work and family time so I’ve decided to come up with 5 tips to help balance work and family life!
Let Go of the Guilt
Guilt is one of the greatest wastes of emotional energy. Instead of dwelling on how you’re not with your child, think about how your role in the company is benefiting the family. Perhaps you can afford sports activities or extracurricular activities for your children or you’re able to put away savings for college. Accept that there will be good and bad days. Mothers should know they are not alone and they should discuss their feelings with partners or support groups if needed. Make time for yourself as well, a nice bath with a book and some wine is always a great way to let things go and relax as well.
Finding quality childcare
Finding a quality daycare is a huge must, you need to know your children are being taken care of exactly how you would if you were home with them. Finding someone you trust enough to help raise your children is a very big deal in my eyes. Ask your network of friends and family for references to nannies, babysitters, and daycare centers. Create a list of criteria that are important and then schedule time to interview qualified childcare providers or to tour local daycares.
This is a huge must. Avoid starting the day all frazzled and get organized the night before. Pack the kids’ lunches, lay out their clothes (plus your own), and have everyone shower. Create lists and save them for re-use. Keep a main calendar centrally located to post everyone’s activities (I have lists for my lists.) A set schedule will help everyone know what and where they are suppose to be and what they need to do. Make a chore chart for your children if they are old enough to help around the house!
Get the most out of Family Time
Give them your full attention. Making time for your kids is crucial, both during the week and on the weekends, to nurture your family dynamic and allow everyone to bond. If you’re pressed for time, have a family breakfast or a family night with board games or movies. (we do video game nights or dance parties before bed) When you do have family outings, avoid talking about work or checking your phone. Instead, focus on your kids’ interests such as friends, classes, and hobbies. With older children, ask for their activity suggestions and try to meet their needs.
Spend Quality time with Your Partner
Remember to nurture your relationship with your partner, who will often be the number one person by your side. Start by having monthly date nights to get closer, feel rejuvenated, and enjoy each other’s company. When work weights you down, your partner is normally the first one to feel neglected. For some couples, going out on a monthly date can be difficult and expensive, but that doesn’t mean you can’t focus on each other. Have an indoor date night by cooking an elegant meal together or even sitting together with a glass of wine and talking (but not about work or the kids).
As Yoda said , “Do or do not, there is no try.” Make time for children, your partner and yourself!
What are ways you keep yourself sane as a working mom?